5 Wedding Planning Tips to Stay Grounded


 A bride and groom stay grounded on their wedding day, walking along the dirt road on StarHill Farms to a captivated audenice of cattle. <3

A bride and groom stay grounded on their wedding day, walking along the dirt road on StarHill Farms to a captivated audenice of cattle. <3

In an age of self-help, it's funny how couples find themselves up against the same old rules Emily Post put together a hundred years ago. 

Today, couples look different, think differently and plan differently too. 

Here are a few tips to make your wedding about you.


Tip#1

Pick and choose what parts of the wedding you want.

 Toss the toss.

Toss the toss.

This means self- reflection and prioritization.  Do you despise the bouquet toss? Then toss the toss. Does the cake cutting sound like it'll give you a panic attack? Then cut the cut. Be creative, buy sheet cake from Costco and have it passed around, no one will know the difference. 

Tip #2

Set an Intention.

 Many people describe the wedding planning process as the first major life project a couple does together. Take a seat and enjoy the ride.&nbsp;

Many people describe the wedding planning process as the first major life project a couple does together. Take a seat and enjoy the ride. 

My wedding's intention was to bring together friends and family. This fit my personality, and by just putting that intention out there, made the whole process feel easier. 

When facing certain decisions, about food, decor, etc. I simply remembered my intention and asked myself, does it fit?

If your intention is to create the most romantic memory of your life, your decisions on wedding size, decor, even food will look  different than the ones I chose! 

Tip #3
Ask yourself: What would this look like if it were easy?

 Plan your wedding from a peaceful place and create a wedding full of peace.

Plan your wedding from a peaceful place and create a wedding full of peace.

Our brains are problem solving machines and when faced with a task, will work overtime to give us the answers we seek.

When left unchecked, this could lead to over-analysis, overwhelm, anxiety and stress. 

Get your mind to work for you,  and ask it how to keep things easy. You'll have tons of answers come forward that help you simplify and enjoy your wedding planning process.


Tip #4 Create boundaries.

 Newmans Castle down the road from StarHill Farms.

Newmans Castle down the road from StarHill Farms.

One thing I never understood about wedding planning blogs and magazines, is how little they cover family and friend dynamics. Weddings are ancient traditions and hold a lot of memories and history along with them. Traditions can lead to expectations and expectations can lead to conflict.

The only "tip" I have for this, is to create boundaries. Remember the wedding is about you, and it's important to protect it from becoming something different. 

Think of your wedding as a castle and your boundary as the moat surrounding it. What's allowed in? What needs out? It's your drawbridge!


Tip #5 Make mistakes.

 These cows aren't trying to be perfect, but man do they look it anyways.&nbsp;

These cows aren't trying to be perfect, but man do they look it anyways. 

That's right. Give yourself permission to be imperfect. 

I guarantee you, you'll laugh at whatever "went wrong" in your wedding down the road. 

Make life a little easier and calm your inner critic. Remember we learn from our mistakes. While a wedding is a significant life event, it's just another day, and another opportunity to evolve.